One of my sisters fall sick. She scared with the symptoms, she doubted it is very bad disease. They went to doctor and doctor advised some test. The fear gone to another level. She worried, if anything happens to her, what will be the faith of her children? She says, I cant tolerate my children suffer. Its beyond her imagination it seems. I think, it is same for all the young parents. What if, tomorrow anything happens to us and how our children survive? who will take care of them? who will love them? who will teach them? who will be cook and bath them?
My cousins wife suicide last year, left an year old boy and my cousin. Whatever the reason, how she forgot about her child at that bad moment? This is not to talk about person died. This is to talk about the boy and husband who have to live forward.
Now this child is taken care by my cousins sister, mother and cousins wifes family. it is not just that, somebody will take care of the child. There is a reason behind it. There must have an intimacy build between the child and others who are taking care of the baby now. It is very important our child should have an intimacy with our parents or other close relative. in old joint family system, there used to be always people to take care of children. Even child will have same motherly relationship with other ladies in the family. These days, post nuclear family system, child has only relationship with own parents. Parent to have no intention to introduce any other close circle for children. This will create a lot of imbalance in our family. We create unnecessary tension of child protection.
I lost my mother when was in 9th grade. But I had my grand mother to fill that role. My brother had my mothers family to fill our mother role. It is not just about cooking and feeding. Each of us need love and intimacy from our intimate one. if we have only one intimate person in life, you have not diversified your love and affection. you dont need multiple spouses but you definitely need multiple loved ones to take care of you and express your love.
It is not just for sake of it. More people to love and care will add spices to your life.
My cousins wife suicide last year, left an year old boy and my cousin. Whatever the reason, how she forgot about her child at that bad moment? This is not to talk about person died. This is to talk about the boy and husband who have to live forward.
Now this child is taken care by my cousins sister, mother and cousins wifes family. it is not just that, somebody will take care of the child. There is a reason behind it. There must have an intimacy build between the child and others who are taking care of the baby now. It is very important our child should have an intimacy with our parents or other close relative. in old joint family system, there used to be always people to take care of children. Even child will have same motherly relationship with other ladies in the family. These days, post nuclear family system, child has only relationship with own parents. Parent to have no intention to introduce any other close circle for children. This will create a lot of imbalance in our family. We create unnecessary tension of child protection.
I lost my mother when was in 9th grade. But I had my grand mother to fill that role. My brother had my mothers family to fill our mother role. It is not just about cooking and feeding. Each of us need love and intimacy from our intimate one. if we have only one intimate person in life, you have not diversified your love and affection. you dont need multiple spouses but you definitely need multiple loved ones to take care of you and express your love.
It is not just for sake of it. More people to love and care will add spices to your life.
Comments
Post a Comment