My first blog....

Leading a happy life is a dream  Instead we live a life to come out of sadness  We pray to get of sadness  We worry about past  We tense about the future  Removing sadness is a task  I am trying hard to remove my sadness  To fill the joy  So many problems around me  And within me  Not able to look inward  Because so many problems are around  Is there any control I have on the problems around ?  Really, no !  Still, I am behind it  My all life is surrounded in the problems  I don’t have a control  Can I pause and not bother around ? Can I stop worrying the problems I don’t have any control ? In fact, it not my business  What I want is happiness!  Can I be happy without any reason?  Can fill my life with happy ?  Without worry to remove sadness  Too much of happiness will remove my sadness  I do not have any role in it !  Give me the power to detach myself from the probl...

Oh my love,  Accept my rose as a symbol of love !  He kissed the flower and gifted the beloved  We admired the rose  How people of caring rose ! Rose is the most luckiest flower  They are kissing the dead rose  They cut the rose from the rose tree  They separated rose from the tree  Where does the rose belongs to ?  Where does the life of rose belongs to ?  Murder of rose kissing the rose now  To express his love  Oh dear love of the murderer,  Think about it  Before trusting him  Know this carefully,  One day he may kiss you  After kill you ! 

Loan and Debt is part of life, many people think that without taking a loan they cant buy any capital goods in their life. It could be vehicle, house hold machines. This believe has created from long time.  Olden days, shop used to sell these on installment basis with an interest. Now things changed, we have zero interest loans. We appreciate the generosity of shops. What a nice people to offer us loans without interest.  Let’s be sure, no one can run business without any income. There will be catch. It could be financiers getting discount on item purchased. We may think, that ok. Let them earn from shops. But, there is an opportunity we are missing. What is it ? We could earn discounts if we pay full in cash.  Plus one more disadvantage, for the next few months whatever the EMI period, our savings is stuck. Our spending habit is changing. Next time if we want something, we will buy with loan. If spending become our habit and miss EMI, we are in debt trap.  Think bef...

Who are you to advise me ?  I am just suggesting  I don’t need any suggestion Ok, why are saying it me ? I feel like  Then, what should I do  Be silent  Ok Why are silent?  You say so  You are not empathetic  Ok,  What ok ?  If you are not interested, I will stop  Ok  Shut the door !! 

I am not comfortable with him  Pause Is he comfortable with you ?  I don’t care  Look inward  Are you ?  Why too much dialogue  Start doing  Let the action speak  I am sad  Why do you sad ?  I don’t know  Then, do you need this sadness  No Then get out of it  I am not able to  Do something  What ?  Go for a walk  I am lazy to walk  Take bath  Not feel like  Stand there and jump  I am lazy  Then start screening  No, I can’t  What can you do ?  Nothing  Then do nothing! 

I don’t like myself  Why ?  I don’t know  But why ?  I can’t speak to someone  Why is that ?  I don’t like him What did he do ?  He ignore me  Why ?  I don’t know  Did you ask him, Why ?  No Why ?  I don’t know is it intentional  Then, why can’t you start talking?  How can I ?  Just try  No, he should initiate  Then wait  No, I can’t bear the pain  Then you initiate  No, he should  Ok, hold the pain  No, I can’t grieve  Then start taking  No, he should speak first  Then, wait  No, I can’t hold the pain  Be patient  No, I can’t hold anymore  Then, quickly start talking  No, I can’t  Then, get used to the pain  No, I have already many pain It’s ok, add this one too  Um ! 

 It’s ok to have jealousy  It’s ok to have ego  Knowing that you have both is a gift  Look for your precious  Cherish your precious  You won’t have time for jealousy or ego You are so excited on your precious  You are so focused on your precious  Where do you have time for jealousy or ego  Others may love you or not  You need someone to love you  To love someone is easy  You can do yourself  Focus on loving, not receiving love  Difficult is to be loved  Easy is to love  Without any expectation  Love can’t bring jealousy  Love can’t bring ego  When play with your girl You love to get beaten  No play for ego or jealousy there  Why, you love her  You love her victory  Keep your love for everyone  If you love everyone  You will receive your love from somewhere 

 You need a partner  It could be your love  Brother  Sister Friend  You need a cheer leader  It could be anybody  Who genuinely happy about your action They can be someone who does things along with you  Or a person who see your actions  Without expecting anything 

When you give  You can’t get back  Or right to take it back  Somebody may give back you one day  That somebody may not be same person That somebody may not be there  Even if not there also  You should happy about your giving  Genuinely happy  Happiness like you achieved something in your life  Giving is your happiness  Not taking  If you have a hope of getting back  It is not giving  It is a trade ! 

 Sumani asked, do you know something called introvert?  Yes, I heard it. I said  Am I an Introvert?  I said, No  Why ? Immediately she wants to know  I see you like to be with friends  No Acha, I don’t speak to many people  I asked, why ?  It’s because I am shy, I am not comfortable  But, I see you  many time, you talk to people very easy That’s because they speak English  Is it English is the problem  Or shyness?  I am not comfortable speaking in Malayalam  Knowing a language and your persality type is different  If you learn Malayalam, you can speak to any Malayali  If have English, you can speak to anyone who speaks English Judging yourself as introvert may not help you  Being introvert is good, if you are really  Personally, I am an introvert  Sumani didn’t believe  She see me talking to everyone  But, I had a time, I was not comfortable opening up  My school and colleg...

 We want a perfect child  We lead a perfect life  We become a perfect role model  Child watch us a become a perfect child  They does all to become that perfect child for their parents  Why do they become perfect child ?  Do they want to perfect for them or for their parents ?  As a child, they may not know  Is it a pressure for the child to become perfect ?  Or they really like the life they are leading  As their family values  Do they have an opinion on their journey to become perfect ?  Developing an opinion on their life is more in important than making them perfect  Perfect is an opinion as per you  Perfection as a parent or as a child is in the eye of beholder  It is healthy to have dialogue on the life  Rather than directions of life  Too much of directions, may lead the child to be a perfect child  Becoming perfect May be an escape for the child  Without even knowing  When the...

I feel scared of telling  I get rebellious response No appreciation  All complaints  Whatever I do  I receive complaints at the end  She said, look at your thought  Why do you think, it’s complaint  Can’t you look inward And see that as normal  Yes, makes a lot of sense 

  Expectation   A boy lost his wallet He wanted a rupee to go back home.   It was my school time. A rupee held a value , so h e was begging for money.   No one here lends money, I had a rupee and gave it. He said he will return it.   I met him next day. He looked at me and did not say a word.   I met him daily. He looked at me and did not mention anything about  that rupee ; as if nothing had happened.   Few months later we had a fight at school and this boy; who had borrowed  money from me, Threw a tantrum at me.   I got really pissed and asked him to return my rupee . He forgot about all  that rupee .   I felt cheated and betrayed. It was from my limited source that  I helped him that day.   It disturbed me for a long while and, I carried it in me till I had completed my course in that school.   I left school and forgot about it. I don't even remember his name anymore, but he gave me a lesson.   When you g...

People suicide  They kill someone  There is a reason  Person who afraid to kill themselves Become murder  Person who afraid to kill others  Suicide themselves  Person who afraid to do both Lead a hell of a life