When I go back to my early school days I remember one thing my teachers thought me, 'human is a social animal'. I dont remember which class but this sentence was repeated in most of the class and it continued till college. and it again repeated in different terms after I started my career. there people used talk about net working, social drinking, socialising, building relation ship etc... and I have seen fake or transactional relationship as well.
Actually I think if we do socialising and sharpen our ability to do this art there is no need for a management course. I am realising this by looking at my respected people. My dad is not an educated man but he is suceessful sales man and well known person in our town. He doesnt know who Philip Kotler is or his 4/5 Ps. but he know how to talk to any one the way the receipent likes or attracts. that art was acquired only by talking to people around him. I dont know whether he put any effort in his early days but know he does it very fluently. He makes sure he meet new people almost every day without any purpose no contact details stored, no face book/ twiter connection. But when it comes to his business because of this, first and foremost thing for a sales man is acheived he can get the attention from the people. that skill is almost like in build.
there is only one thing happening, continous meetings with people. this can be for some social cause or business or even some idea generation.
Some times in our organisation or within relatives we find some guys tough to handle. Even I feel that with some people but now what I do is try to understand what they like and start talking about that. Slowly bring thing which I need. But give more importance to what they want depending on my available time. I am getting comfortable with tough guys through this technique. I dont know any management jargon for this but its very simple and effective.
Most of the time this uncomfortness with some people is as a result of some event that happened between people and they will decide to stop the communication with each other for a time being. that is biggest mistake we do. you should talk to people continuously may be it will lead to fight, but do it, let the communication flow and till you parties reaches a solution talk it over. if you do this and when you both meet next time ,it wouldnt be as uncomfortable a sit seemed to be!!
This socialising is not at all high level thing. We can start talking to our new neighbor or a person seated next to you in the bus. this will help us to be very confident and happy people. if you do this on informal occasion, you are actually practising unintentially. you can repeat this when you sit for a interveiw, when you meet a client or when you meet your boss or any important person or group you meet officially.
If you talk to people very often, slowly you will get like minded people around you and you'll be good friends and later share your issues. this will make you a tension free person. Someday, we all will no longer be here but if people know us well, we will live in there heart for ever.
Actually I think if we do socialising and sharpen our ability to do this art there is no need for a management course. I am realising this by looking at my respected people. My dad is not an educated man but he is suceessful sales man and well known person in our town. He doesnt know who Philip Kotler is or his 4/5 Ps. but he know how to talk to any one the way the receipent likes or attracts. that art was acquired only by talking to people around him. I dont know whether he put any effort in his early days but know he does it very fluently. He makes sure he meet new people almost every day without any purpose no contact details stored, no face book/ twiter connection. But when it comes to his business because of this, first and foremost thing for a sales man is acheived he can get the attention from the people. that skill is almost like in build.
there is only one thing happening, continous meetings with people. this can be for some social cause or business or even some idea generation.
Some times in our organisation or within relatives we find some guys tough to handle. Even I feel that with some people but now what I do is try to understand what they like and start talking about that. Slowly bring thing which I need. But give more importance to what they want depending on my available time. I am getting comfortable with tough guys through this technique. I dont know any management jargon for this but its very simple and effective.
Most of the time this uncomfortness with some people is as a result of some event that happened between people and they will decide to stop the communication with each other for a time being. that is biggest mistake we do. you should talk to people continuously may be it will lead to fight, but do it, let the communication flow and till you parties reaches a solution talk it over. if you do this and when you both meet next time ,it wouldnt be as uncomfortable a sit seemed to be!!
This socialising is not at all high level thing. We can start talking to our new neighbor or a person seated next to you in the bus. this will help us to be very confident and happy people. if you do this on informal occasion, you are actually practising unintentially. you can repeat this when you sit for a interveiw, when you meet a client or when you meet your boss or any important person or group you meet officially.
If you talk to people very often, slowly you will get like minded people around you and you'll be good friends and later share your issues. this will make you a tension free person. Someday, we all will no longer be here but if people know us well, we will live in there heart for ever.
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